What is Self-Harm?
We all need healthy ways to cope with difficult emotions. When feelings become overwhelming, some people turn to self-harm as a way to cope. We’re here to help you understand self-harm and find safer, healthier alternatives.
Self-harm, also known as self-injury, refers to intentionally hurting oneself as a way to cope with emotional pain. It is important to know that most people who self-harm are not trying to end their life. Instead, they may be trying to release intense emotions, feel something when they feel numb, or regain a sense of control.
Self-harm can look different for everyone. It is any behaviour where a person deliberately injures their body. It is often a coping mechanism for overwhelming feelings such as sadness, anger, anxiety, or shame.
Self-harm does not mean someone is seeking attention. It usually signals that someone is struggling and needs understanding and support.
Common Types of Self-Harm
Self-harm can take many forms, including:
Cutting or scratching the skin
Burning the skin
Carving words or symbols into the skin
Hitting or punching oneself or banging the head
Piercing the skin with sharp objects
Pulling out hair (trichotillomania)
Picking at wounds or scabs
These behaviours may vary in severity, but all deserve care and attention.
Warning Signs of Self-Harm
Stigma and shame often make it difficult for people to seek help. Recognising the signs can help you support yourself or someone else:
Frequent cuts, burns, scratches, or bruises
Wearing long sleeves or long trousers, even in hot weather
Keeping sharp objects nearby
Spending long periods alone
Emotional instability, impulsiveness, or intense mood swings
Saying they feel hopeless, helpless, or worthless
Difficulty maintaining relationships or sense of identity
If you notice these signs in yourself or someone else, reaching out for help is important.
Why Do People Self-Harm?
People may self-harm to:
Release intense emotional pain
Feel something physical when feeling emotionally numb
Regain a sense of control
Punish themselves for perceived mistakes
Express emotions they find hard to talk about
Self-harm is a coping strategy—but there are safer, healthier ways to cope, and recovery is possible.
Myths and Facts About Self-Harm
Myth: People who self-harm just want attention.
Fact: Most people self-harm privately and feel ashamed. It is often a way to cope with intense emotions.
Myth: Self-harm means someone wants to die.
Fact: Many people who self-harm are not suicidal. It is often a coping mechanism, not a suicide attempt.
Myth: Self-harm is a teenage problem.
Fact: People of all ages and backgrounds can self-harm.
Myth: If someone stops self-harming, the problem is solved.
Fact: Stopping self-harm is an important step, but the underlying emotions and struggles still need care and support. Healing is a journey, not a quick fix.
Why People Struggle to Seek Help
Many people who self-harm feel:
Embarrassed or ashamed
Afraid of being judged or misunderstood
Worried about getting in trouble
Unsure how to explain their feelings
If this sounds like you, know that help is available and you deserve support.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is self-harm addictive?
Yes, it can become a habit because it temporarily relieves emotional pain.
Can someone stop self-harming?
Yes. With support, coping strategies, and sometimes professional help, many people recover.
Should I tell someone?
Yes. Talking to a trusted person or counsellor can help you feel safer and less alone.